🥵 Hot Flashes and Hormones

Your summer survival guide

The Carry All

Edition #124 | Read time: 5 Minutes

Ever wondered if your midlife symptoms are more than just life’s usual chaos? Believe it or not, they could be a sign of perimenopause.

“But I’m not old!” you might be screaming inside your head.

(We know — and we’re not either 🤪 )

But did you know that the big change can start earlier than you think (and last longer than we’d like…) — so we’ll dive deep into this topic with a helpful quiz that can provide a lot of insight into the matter. 

Speaking of hot flashes and brain fog — we love this take on the importance of making workplaces menopause-friendly for those of us navigating these life changes. (Can you IMAGINE the companies of our parents creating such policies?! The times, they are a changin’.) 

Plus, for the moms of older kids, we’ve got insightful advice on supporting neurodiverse teens in their romantic endeavors and a relatable moment from America’s sweetheart, Drew Barrymore, as she tackles the great cell phone debate with her kids.

 This week in The CARRY™ ALL, we’re talking about:

  • 🧐 Perimenopause or Menopause Quiz 

  • 🥵 How to Beat Summer Hot Flashes

  • 🧔🏻 Last Minute Father’s Day Gifts

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1️⃣ 🧐 Perimenopause or Menopause Quiz 

Being a woman can sometimes feel like there’s some cosmic joke being played on us. Our healthy, regular state involves fluctuating hormones, monthly (often painful) periods, and the myriad symptoms and side effects associated with childbirth and the postpartum period. (Let’s not even get into the cultural aspects of having a uterus…)

Enter perimenopause — the phase before menopause that women experience in their mid-to-late 30s or early 40s. If you’re around this age and have noticed increased anxiety, brain fog, weight gain and digestive issues, it might not just be because life is particularly challenging right now.

These symptoms (along with over 30 others) can be symptoms of perimenopause. Take this quiz to see if perimenopause can explain what you’ve been experiencing. Also, if you know the lyrics to THIS song, there’s a good chance you’re perimenopausal.

2️⃣ 🥵 How to Beat Summer Hot Flashes

Speaking of those awesome perimenopause symptoms, nearly half of all women in this phase of life experience hot flashes. Caused by hormonal changes that “confuse” the body about its temperature regulation, hot flashes are the result of an increased heart rate, dilated blood vessels, and sweat glands that have been instructed to cool your body down.

Can hot flashes be worse in the summer? The short answer is yes.

Read more about what can trigger hot flashes, and what to do about them when they arrive.

(And when you need a little extra help cooling off during a flash, you might want to invest in a handheld mini fan! Want more than just a cool breeze? We love Alloy for total menopause relief. Use Code: PAULA42103 for $25 off!)

3️⃣ 🧔🏻 Last Minute Father’s Day Gifts

And just like that, it’s Father’s Day. Still need something to make him feel appreciated? We’ve got you covered!

  • For the grill master, THIS charcoal rub is our fave!

  • If he’s a Star Wars fan, you can tell him “Yoda Best Dad” with this fun tee-shirt.

  • Want to make sure he knows he’s a classic? He’ll love this mug! 

  • If dad makes some pretty terrible jokes, we think you should call him out on them every time with this Dad Joke Button.

  • Want something a little more practical? (As if the Dad Joke Button isn’t practical 🙄.) He might love this phone docking station.


for working moms with older children
  • There are countless worries that enter a parent’s head when they learn that their child is neurodiverse. Will they be able to learn everything they need to know? How will I keep them safe? Will they have friends? Countless neurodiverse children grow into adults who can lead wonderfully fulfilling lives — and that includes having romantic relationships. So what do you do when your neurodiverse teen begins expressing interest in a love life? This article is a great resource.

  • America’s Sweetheart, Drew Barrymore, is struggling with her children in very much the same way as the rest of us. Her daughters, who are 10 and 11 years old, want what most other kids their age want: a cell phone. In a recent episode of The Drew Barrymore Show, Barrymore gave a heartfelt talk about how she’s saying “no” to this request and is standing her ground. She discusses how hard it is to have your children resent you, but that she is staying strong because she knows that her decision is what’s best for them. You can read more and watch the clip here.

Last week’s poll results: Over 50% of you think the 9-Minute Theory totally helps!

➡️ “Quantity is good but MORE is always BETTER ...and connection is ALWAYS BEST!”

➡️ “Yes! I think the key is giving them those 9 min of your truly undivided attention. Putting my phone away, looking them in the eyes, listening to their stories and laughing at their jokes... I can give them 9 minutes of that and we BOTH feel our tanks filled afterwards. Helps me then go be fully present at work knowing my kiddos are still getting their momma needs met. ”

➡️ “My children are definitely velcro babies- the 8 month old for obvious reasons, but the 10 year old wants literal hours at a time with me-- often times in physical contact. It's exhausting.”


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